With the tournament coming up in a few days I wanted to say something that we all know is true, but sometimes hard to swallow:
It’s ok for your child to lose.
In fact, if you think about it, they’re going to lose more times than they will succeed.
But guess what?
That’s what makes the wins so special.
I wish every student could win every time. Winning, succeeding, or being the “best” at something is a wonderful motivator.
But so is loss.
I have won my fair share of medals - but I can tell you from personal experience that I don’t remember the wins the way I remember the losses. I remember several tournaments in vivid detail…and those are the ones that I did not win. The outcomes were not what I wanted but I can honestly say it fueled me to work harder to succeed the next time.
“The strongest people aren’t always the people who win, but the people who don’t give up when they lose” -Liam Payne
Embrace the loss, let your child feel the magnitude of it, and then have the conversation about what they can learn from this lesson.
Help them understand that winning doesn’t happen by accident. Going to class, practicing at home, and asking for help are all ways to achieve success. I don’t know many students who don’t do well at tournaments and testings when they practice every day. ;)
To all of our students who DO earn a medal on Saturday, we are so excited for you! Your hard work and dedication has paid off. Be kind to your fellow competitors; sore winners are just as bad as sore losers.
No matter what happens this weekend, we want you to remember that winners never quit, and quitters never win.
Good luck to all of our tournament competitors, win or lose, we’re proud of you!